Well all I can tell you about the MS bullshit is that from personal experience even that often isnt good enough, nope they want elders for husbands.
When I was reaching out for several years (7 to be exact!) to become an MS again in my 30s it turned out I was blocked by the PO year after year after year because of a personal grudge he had for me. So much for gods spirit and all that other crap we were spoon fed.
A good summary Sir82!